love what you do, do what you love
Mandy, mother of two, creator of @cakerbakes and maker of the most stunning cakes I have ever seen, shared some wisdom about her own experience putting energy into what she loves:
What is the most challenging thing for you about making space in your life to accommodate your own heart's passion?
For the longest time, I felt like I was basically in survival mode. Now that the kids are getting older and more independent, I definitely have more time but I still find myself reverting back to that mentality of beating the clock ("how much can I accomplish before naptime is over/the next tantrum/someone needs something from me"). That feeling that there's always something I "should" be doing at every moment. And this is a bit contradictory, but even though I definitely have more time for my own pursuits than I did even just a few years ago, it still seems like there are just never enough hours in the day.
When our passions don't generate income, they get relegated to hobby status and it's difficult to prioritize a hobby. It somehow feels indulgent no matter how much joy it brings.
Even though I'm trying to lay the groundwork and hone my skills to eventually turn my hobby into a business, I still often feel conflicted about spending so much of my time this way because it doesn't feel "productive."
2.) Why do you think it is so hard for women to do?
I don't know why it's so hard for some of us to take care of ourselves or put our own needs first. Sometimes it feels selfish even though I know it's not "supposed" to.
3.) What would you say to other mothers who want to make changes to follow a heart's dream on behalf of themselves but feel guilty/scared doing so?
I think we have to acknowledge and honor where we are in our own journey. We all have different circumstances and obstacles. There was a time where I could barely squeeze a shower in and I resented people advising me to "be brave and just do xyx." I remember thinking "but I literally can't right now- I'm just trying to get through the day!"
I think it's important to surround yourself with people who support your dreams and root for you at every stage.